Catching Up...

Wow, sorry for being M.I.A.! I didn’t realize that I haven’t written in awhile and I have no real reason for it. It’s just a combination of being busy and lazy! Here’s a summary of what went on in December:

My father’s surprise 75th birthday party went really well and a good time was had by all. It was wonderful to have everyone gathered for my papa. He was truly touched to see everyone there. He’s still talking about it now! You can see for yourself how much of a great party it was by clicking here!

Linh and I went to a wicked party called Soul Kitchen. It was a pure R&B jam and the music was off the chain!! There was also a performance by one of my most fave. singers,
Dwele. He put on an awesome show and thanks to Linh who really encouraged me to go, I also met him. We were surprised at how shy he was but he was a total sweetheart nonetheless! My boy, Tyrone was DJing there that night so I finally managed to get with him as well!

Dwele & I

Tyrone & I

I finally finished my website and I’m very proud of myself! It took me about 3 weeks to do it. Technically it was less then that because I was juggling work and laziness all at the same time...plus I was sick for almost 2 weeks! Please feel free to check it out and sign my guestbook while you’re there to let me know what you think! The Lady’s Lounge

Lastly, Christmas was good and fairly quiet. On the eve, we went to church and had an aunt and uncle over for dinner. Christmas day we had lunch at a family friend’s place then dinner with my brother, sis in law and her family. We were exhausted!

I saw 2 movies during my Christmas break. First, Linh and I went to see Blood Diamond. It was about the diamond trade in Sierra Leone. Great movie, terribly upsetting though. Some scenes are quite graphic but it has to be because the situations shown are someone’s reality. It certainly makes you think twice about purchasing diamonds or making sure that the ones you buy are conflict-free. Second, my sister and I went to see Dream Girls. We’re not fans of Beyonce or anything, we were just curious to see it because of all the buzz it had been getting. The movie did not disappoint. It was clear that Jennifer Hudson was the true star in the film. She blew us all away and caused people to clap in the theatre. Great movie, the music was wicked too.

Guess that’s it for now…I think I summed it all up. Linh and I are supposed to be partying New Year’s Eve…I’ll probably write about that next.

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

Not Again….

I’ve spoken about this before here. People have their sensitivities and their things that make them conscious. I’ve come a long way in confidence from where I was when I was growing up. I am not a toothpick, probably never will be…nor do I want to and I’m fine with that. I’m comfortable where I’m at with my appearance although there is always room for improvement. Recently a lady who is a friend of the family said something to me that made me feel weird…for lack of a better word. I say weird because I know she didn’t mean it the way I took it but it bothered me nonetheless. I was saying goodbye to her and she hugged me. When we pulled away, somewhat rubbed the side of my stomach and said, “Oh Vee, there’s so much of you to love.”

Mind you, this pales into comparison to what the old lady said to me at work as I mentioned in the link last paragraph. It didn’t piss me off or really upset me like that situation did but it ‘bothered’ me. I don’t know how else to put it. I just smiled at her and left after that. This was a few days ago but it’s been running around in my mind since then and it’s pissing me off that it’s bothering me so much. I wanted to write about this to see if I felt better after…we’ll see.

All The Things I Want To Say But Don't Have The Guts To Tell You...

What I have feared most since I heard your news has happened and I'm all mixed up, almost like I don't know how to feel.
I'm feeling a bunch of different things:
My chest is heavy like I'm missing something
I'm sad
I'm indifferent cuz I wasn't sure if we were gonna work anyway.
"What's gonna happen now?" is always running through my head.

Actually I guess I kinda do know what to feel...I'm missing you....
Your calls, your daily text msgs, your arms around me.
It's been awhile since I felt such comfort from someone and now you are far away.

This whole thing has made me realize how much I felt. I'm hurting, tears are falling and I'm trying hard not to show it.

The Husband Magnet

My family and I are planning a small surprise party for my dad’s 75th birthday...just my dad’s side of the family and us. It’s happening this Saturday. I asked Linh to design tags for the giveaways using a baby picture of him so my sister and I went to Kinko’s late Wednesday night to get them printed.

It was about 10:30 or so when we walked in. There were 3 attendants behind the counter, all male and they all turned at looked at us when we approached. One of them rushed over to us with a huge smile and asked what we needed help with. He was a quite short and stocky black man. I told him that what we needed and suggested we look at paper samples first. We need something thicker than normal paper so he showed us the display. “Y’know what would be better? We don’t necessarily have all that’s in the catalogue in stock. We’re not supposed to do this but why don’t you come to the back and look at what we have?” he suggested. We agreed so we went around the counter and he let me pass. He stopped my sister and said, “Oh, sorry. I can only let one of you through.” I went to the back and he helped me pick out paper. I only needed 2 sheets but he told me to take a few just in case of any mistakes. He then took us to the computer and opened what was on my disk for us. He started complimenting us on the tags and asked what we were doing for conversation as we got them printed. He went over to the printer and then handed us 4 sheets saying he’s only gonna charge us for 2 but wanted to give us extra just in case. He pointed out the paper cutters and said to go ahead and use them. While we were cutting the squares, my sister and I noticed him going all over the place looking for something, going through cupboards and drawers. We didn’t think anything of it and continued what we were doing. We ended up with 48 tags instead of 24. When we approached the counter, he rushed over again and said, “I was trying to look for a hole puncher for you but I couldn’t find it. I’m so sorry.” We told him it was okay and were surprised that he was even looking for one. I took out my wallet, ready to pay and he smiled, saying, “You know what, don’t worry about it. No charge.” We were shocked and I was like, “What?? Are you sure?” “No, no, it’s fine! Hope your party turns out great!” he told us. We said thank you so many times before we left.

On our way home, my sister and I were laughing. Point blank: I usually attract black men…not that I have a problem with it. It’s just usually the ones that do approach, I’m not interested in. People have said, “Leave it to Vee. If there is one black man in the room, chances are he’ll come and talk to her!” It’s so bad and I’m made fun of all the time! “What is it with you and black guys? And it’s not just black guys, they’re usually really short and nasty?” my sister said, laughing. I called Linh up and told her what happened. She could not stop laughing. “You’re such a husband magnet!” I was told by either my sister or Linh. The way we use the word ‘husband’ is not what you think. When we say ‘husband’, it’s usually quite the opposite. A ‘husband’ is usually a man who’s really nasty. He could have crazy hair or a tacky way of dressing, perhaps gold teeth or teeth that’s crooked or missing. Basically it’s the opposite of your personal ideal! The criteria of a ‘husband’ for me tends to be quite short, tacky dressing and whatever else! I’ve been approached by quite a few and it’s always so embarrassing! We got home and told my mom the whole story. “Is he black?” she asked and we said yes, starting to laugh like crazy again!

What is it with me and black guys? No, seriously! What?? It’s crazy ridiculous! If only I could get this type of attention from men I actually want!